More expats in China are using dating apps to diversify their social circles and romantic options. Photo: IC
It was 11 pm on a Saturday night, and Jeff, a European expat who has been living in Beijing for five years, was just back from a party where he met a lot of new people, both foreigners and Chinese. Still, though, he felt just a little bit empty, a little bit restless, and so he logged onto Tantan, a Chinese dating app similar to Tinder, that he has been using for the past year.
He started swiping through prospective partners' pictures and limited profiles, which include information like age, zodiac sign and occupation. Swiping left means you do not like the person, right means you do. Left, left, and then, 'Oh, this girl is pretty. She's got a nice smile,' he said to himself, and swiped right. It was a match, which meant the girl also liked him. 'Hi, how are you?' he typed.
According to Jeff's profile on Tantan, 5,166 girls have liked him over the past year, which translates to 5,166 chances to meet new girls online. In that time, he's achieved 1,196 matches, which meant that he and 1,196 girls liked each other.
Chinese dating apps have been seeing growing popularity among expats living in China, in part because many foreigners' social circles are largely limited to other expats, and these apps give them the chance to meet and date locals. Among the most popular apps, both for Chinese and foreign singles, are Tantan, Momo and Skouts.
Sun Yang, a public relations director from Momo, told Metropolitan that they have seen more expats using their dating app over the past few years, though they didn't have any statistics detailing their number of foreign users.
Another dating app, Tantan, didn't reply to Metropolitan's calls as of press date, but according to Metropolitan's count, it contains around one expat user for every 10 Chinese users in expat-heavy neighborhoods like Guomao and Sanlitun.
Milo Gonzales, a Beijing-based relationship counselor from the US, said that dating apps are a quicker and easier way to meet new people for expats.
'It gives people the opportunity to talk and communicate to see if they have the same interests, and if their general viewpoints click before they meet in person to see if they are right for each other,' he said.
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Women from the West and from China generally take different approaches to dating when using dating apps in China. Photo: IC
Some believe that relationships that start through dating apps tend to be more shallow since users are more focused on appearances. Photo: IC
The good and bad of cross-cultural dating
What Jeff likes about dating apps is how easy it is to find and meet pretty local girls. In real life, many expats work so much that they have only limited time to socialize, and when they do, according to Jeff, they mostly hang out with other expats.
'Dating apps help break that invisible boundary between expats and locals,' he said.
That has indeed been the case for the two male expats who talked to Metropolitan, both of whom have noticed they are more popular on Chinese dating apps than they are on apps in their home countries.
A case in point is Bruce from the UK, who has only been using Tantan for one month but has already received 236 matches.
'In the UK, when I use Tinder, I usually get 20 to 30 matches tops, because there are fewer girls who swipe right for me than in China.'
Another difference, according to Bruce, is that in the UK, it is usually guys who start the conversation and do the work to try and impress and win over the girls.
'In China, I feel the girls are more keen to meet with me and impress me. Chinese girls don't have arrogance is the best way to explain it, I guess.'
In his experience, Chinese girls on Tantan usually start conversations by asking where he comes from and what he does in Beijing, before asking for his WeChat, and then if he wants to meet up.
'But I think it's too quick,' Bruce said. So far, he has met two girls through Tantan.
Andrew, a Brit in Beijing who's been using Chinese dating apps for five months, says he quickly discovered that while women in the West generally start out chatting about shared interests, Chinese women are more likely to ask about his job and future plans.
He recalls one Chinese girl who, after a single date, began planning their wedding and future together in China.
'I understand that in China, some girls are facing pressure to get married before a certain age, which drives them to want to get serious faster in relationships,' said Andrew.
Another source of culture shock for expats is unrealistic expectations.
Shim Bo-kyung (pseudonym), a 24-year-old student from South Korea, said he often gets the impression that his Chinese dates like to imagine him as being just as rich and handsome as the characters from South Korean TV series.
'Some of my online dates would call me Oppa (Korean for 'older brother,' a term of endearment sometimes used for boyfriends) in a coquettish way just like in South Korean TV series, even though they are older than me, which just freaks me out,' he said.
'Some of them also assume that I am rich, even though I am just a student who works part time,' he said.
Shim added that some Chinese girls have even asked if he comes from a wealthy family like in the famous South Korean TV series The Heirs.
Flings vs serious relationships
Although dating apps have made it easier to meet more people, the relationships formed are often short-lived and shallow, because they were based in the first place on little more than appearances.
'With dating apps, people check out one another's pictures very quickly, and if they think you're attractive, that's it,' Jeff said. 'Most don't even look at the information you've written down.'
Gonzales said that, according to his observations, most guys who use dating apps are more interested in casual relationships, because so many apps are geared at hooking up.
Other expats have different intentions, and use dating apps more to meet locals, learn the language and deepen their understanding of China.
Bruce, for example, wanted to make new friends and maybe find someone who wanted to learn English and could teach him Chinese at the same time. As a result, he met a 19-year-old student who wants to study in the UK, and they've been meeting up to do a language and culture exchange.
Erika, a 22-year-old student from South Korea, has similar intentions to Bruce.
'I'm not looking for the love of my life on dating apps. I use them more for the sake of having different experiences and expanding my world view. By meeting more people from different backgrounds and careers, I've learned a lot about interacting with different kinds of people. I've learned how to start and carry a conversation, to alleviate awkward tension and to listen to others' stories,' Erika said.
She said the best experiences are when you hit it off with someone, and end up talking endlessly.
She recalls one guy she met, who works at an IT company, with whom she had a great conversation about philosophy and life. He also expressed interest in making Korean friends, since his work and social environment is exclusively Chinese.
'I've been surprised to see how eager most people are to interact with foreigners; it's just that they usually have few chances to do so,' Erika said. 'I think Chinese guys are more willing to start conversations with expat girls on apps than they are in real life.'
Newspaper headline: Swipe right for love
A few days ago my Facebook was filled with the excitement of Valentine's day celebrations. With lovers sharing a million lovey dovey over the top romantic posts, myself included. But also with those who are single sharing anti-Valentine days' posts. Or other love related posts. As the day set out for lovers, it can sometimes remind those of us who are not dating that we are alone.
Did you know that after every Valentines day the rate of new users for dating apps jumps up?
It makes sense as everyone wants to find their one true love. That's why in this blog edition, we will introduce the top Chinese dating apps.
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The quick development of the internet, electronic software and in the end social media, has drastically changed our lives. Whether for the good or bad that remains to be seen! The main thing it has done is connect people even more. In this respect, dating apps have changed the way we connect with a lover and the way we date. Some would argue that it's made dating more efficient. Other's that it's made it less romantic. I sometimes find myself wondering what Disney princess movies would look like if they had access to dating apps.
Just imagine in a land far far away…
Cinderella's prince finds her by matching her shoes from a tinder picture, tick, no need to search through the whole kingdom. He just needs to wait for her to match with him too!
Ariel never needs to change to a human, with a sneaky well cropped picture on OkCupid how could Eric ever know she was a mermaid except during their first date!
Aladdin joining a ‘Rich Man' based app as Jasmines dad uses it to find her suitors, no need for the Genie.
Not quite the same ring to it right? But then again we can't hold ourselves to the unrealistic standards of princesses! We aren't just sitting in a castle with our long flowing hair waiting for a prince.
The good thing about dating apps is we don't need to wait for that one specific special moment. We can create those moments ourselves. With online dating apps we're no longer limited to finding someone special by accident with the help of the universe. We can do this whilst waiting in line for morning coffee, whilst at work (don't tell your boss), etc. The possibilities are endless. Whereas before you had to stick to your friends' circle and connections to introduce a suitor. With dating apps, the possibilities are amplified as you can match with a stranger. So even if you don't end up dating you have made a new friend and expanded your social circle.
In an age where we are always running around dating apps let us use our time more effectively.
If you are planning on coming to China, your usual dating apps will not be so popular. To increase the number of date possibilities I suggest using Chinese dating apps. So why, as a language blog are we talking about dating apps!?
Well, these apps can also help you connect with others and make friends, you don't just have to use it for dating.
But if love is in your cards…
As my Chinese teacher always said, the best way to learn a language is to have a lover who speaks it. Although, from personal experience I think my Chinese got worse after I met my husband!
Learning new languages became a key to succeeding in a connected world. Here are my top favorite language translator apps.
Here are our office staffs favorite Chinese dating apps:
1-TanTan探探 (Tàntàn)
Chinese Dating Sites For Foreigners
Top features: Easy to use, quick matches
If you download TanTan you will find it similar if you've used Tinder. TanTan is very popular with younger generations, especially college students. Just like Tinder, you create a basic profile and then it's up to you to find a match. You are presented with a person's photo and profile and like Tinder, swipe left/right to select/eliminate this person. A conversation can only start once you have both picked each other.
Unlike the other Chinese dating apps, TanTan can be used fully in English! This is extremely useful if your Chinese is not very good. Paid dating sites for professionals.
Since last year TanTan is now also owned by the next dating app we will mention Momo.
2-Momo陌陌 (Mòmò)
Top features: Personalized interest based matches, similar to a social media network
This is the number one app in China in terms of user number. Because of this if you could only pick one app to download this one would be it. To increase your chances of finding a suitable candidate it's better to use an app that has a large user base. This is because it means more matches per location. So this is the one I suggest downloading.
This app has some fun features that make it almost like a social platform rather than a simple dating app. For examplemulti-media instant messages, as well as games, and much more. This app specifically gives you personalized matches based on your location. The more information you add to your profile the better your chances of finding a good match.
3-Qing Chufan请吃饭 (Qǐng chīfàn)
Top features: Simple, unique, cute, possibly the most romantic of the dating apps
Some believe that relationships that start through dating apps tend to be more shallow since users are more focused on appearances. Photo: IC
The good and bad of cross-cultural dating
What Jeff likes about dating apps is how easy it is to find and meet pretty local girls. In real life, many expats work so much that they have only limited time to socialize, and when they do, according to Jeff, they mostly hang out with other expats.
'Dating apps help break that invisible boundary between expats and locals,' he said.
That has indeed been the case for the two male expats who talked to Metropolitan, both of whom have noticed they are more popular on Chinese dating apps than they are on apps in their home countries.
A case in point is Bruce from the UK, who has only been using Tantan for one month but has already received 236 matches.
'In the UK, when I use Tinder, I usually get 20 to 30 matches tops, because there are fewer girls who swipe right for me than in China.'
Another difference, according to Bruce, is that in the UK, it is usually guys who start the conversation and do the work to try and impress and win over the girls.
'In China, I feel the girls are more keen to meet with me and impress me. Chinese girls don't have arrogance is the best way to explain it, I guess.'
In his experience, Chinese girls on Tantan usually start conversations by asking where he comes from and what he does in Beijing, before asking for his WeChat, and then if he wants to meet up.
'But I think it's too quick,' Bruce said. So far, he has met two girls through Tantan.
Andrew, a Brit in Beijing who's been using Chinese dating apps for five months, says he quickly discovered that while women in the West generally start out chatting about shared interests, Chinese women are more likely to ask about his job and future plans.
He recalls one Chinese girl who, after a single date, began planning their wedding and future together in China.
'I understand that in China, some girls are facing pressure to get married before a certain age, which drives them to want to get serious faster in relationships,' said Andrew.
Another source of culture shock for expats is unrealistic expectations.
Shim Bo-kyung (pseudonym), a 24-year-old student from South Korea, said he often gets the impression that his Chinese dates like to imagine him as being just as rich and handsome as the characters from South Korean TV series.
'Some of my online dates would call me Oppa (Korean for 'older brother,' a term of endearment sometimes used for boyfriends) in a coquettish way just like in South Korean TV series, even though they are older than me, which just freaks me out,' he said.
'Some of them also assume that I am rich, even though I am just a student who works part time,' he said.
Shim added that some Chinese girls have even asked if he comes from a wealthy family like in the famous South Korean TV series The Heirs.
Flings vs serious relationships
Although dating apps have made it easier to meet more people, the relationships formed are often short-lived and shallow, because they were based in the first place on little more than appearances.
'With dating apps, people check out one another's pictures very quickly, and if they think you're attractive, that's it,' Jeff said. 'Most don't even look at the information you've written down.'
Gonzales said that, according to his observations, most guys who use dating apps are more interested in casual relationships, because so many apps are geared at hooking up.
Other expats have different intentions, and use dating apps more to meet locals, learn the language and deepen their understanding of China.
Bruce, for example, wanted to make new friends and maybe find someone who wanted to learn English and could teach him Chinese at the same time. As a result, he met a 19-year-old student who wants to study in the UK, and they've been meeting up to do a language and culture exchange.
Erika, a 22-year-old student from South Korea, has similar intentions to Bruce.
'I'm not looking for the love of my life on dating apps. I use them more for the sake of having different experiences and expanding my world view. By meeting more people from different backgrounds and careers, I've learned a lot about interacting with different kinds of people. I've learned how to start and carry a conversation, to alleviate awkward tension and to listen to others' stories,' Erika said.
She said the best experiences are when you hit it off with someone, and end up talking endlessly.
She recalls one guy she met, who works at an IT company, with whom she had a great conversation about philosophy and life. He also expressed interest in making Korean friends, since his work and social environment is exclusively Chinese.
'I've been surprised to see how eager most people are to interact with foreigners; it's just that they usually have few chances to do so,' Erika said. 'I think Chinese guys are more willing to start conversations with expat girls on apps than they are in real life.'
Newspaper headline: Swipe right for love
A few days ago my Facebook was filled with the excitement of Valentine's day celebrations. With lovers sharing a million lovey dovey over the top romantic posts, myself included. But also with those who are single sharing anti-Valentine days' posts. Or other love related posts. As the day set out for lovers, it can sometimes remind those of us who are not dating that we are alone.
Did you know that after every Valentines day the rate of new users for dating apps jumps up?
It makes sense as everyone wants to find their one true love. That's why in this blog edition, we will introduce the top Chinese dating apps.
Best indian dating apps usa. IndianCupid is a premier Indian dating and matrimonial site bringing together thousands of Non Resident Indian singles based in the USA, UK, Canada, Australia and around the world. You can choose from our extensive list of matrimonial featuring eligible single NRIs. We assist 1000s of Indian and NRI singles find their perfect match every day. Find out what's happening in Indian Singles Meetup groups around the world and start meeting up with the ones near you. Join Indian Singles groups. Related topics: Indian Professionals. IndianCupid is a premier Indian dating app bringing together thousands of non resident Indian singles based in the USA, UK, Canada, Australia and around the world. Whether you are looking for love. If dating on the go is important for you, pay attention to whether the site has a dating app. An Indian dating app is an excellent way not to be dependent on location when dating. Pay attention to whether the site has search filters. The more search options the site has, the more successful your search will be. Free dating sites in usa + Social Mobile Apps + Website +. If you want an old fashioned text and call relationship, Facebook Dating is the best place to find someone like that. Customer Name Profession. If you want to meet a new partner on Facebook because you're single and want to meet someone new, this is a great way to do that as well.
The quick development of the internet, electronic software and in the end social media, has drastically changed our lives. Whether for the good or bad that remains to be seen! The main thing it has done is connect people even more. In this respect, dating apps have changed the way we connect with a lover and the way we date. Some would argue that it's made dating more efficient. Other's that it's made it less romantic. I sometimes find myself wondering what Disney princess movies would look like if they had access to dating apps.
Just imagine in a land far far away…
Cinderella's prince finds her by matching her shoes from a tinder picture, tick, no need to search through the whole kingdom. He just needs to wait for her to match with him too!
Ariel never needs to change to a human, with a sneaky well cropped picture on OkCupid how could Eric ever know she was a mermaid except during their first date!
Aladdin joining a ‘Rich Man' based app as Jasmines dad uses it to find her suitors, no need for the Genie.
Not quite the same ring to it right? But then again we can't hold ourselves to the unrealistic standards of princesses! We aren't just sitting in a castle with our long flowing hair waiting for a prince.
The good thing about dating apps is we don't need to wait for that one specific special moment. We can create those moments ourselves. With online dating apps we're no longer limited to finding someone special by accident with the help of the universe. We can do this whilst waiting in line for morning coffee, whilst at work (don't tell your boss), etc. The possibilities are endless. Whereas before you had to stick to your friends' circle and connections to introduce a suitor. With dating apps, the possibilities are amplified as you can match with a stranger. So even if you don't end up dating you have made a new friend and expanded your social circle.
In an age where we are always running around dating apps let us use our time more effectively.
If you are planning on coming to China, your usual dating apps will not be so popular. To increase the number of date possibilities I suggest using Chinese dating apps. So why, as a language blog are we talking about dating apps!?
Well, these apps can also help you connect with others and make friends, you don't just have to use it for dating.
But if love is in your cards…
As my Chinese teacher always said, the best way to learn a language is to have a lover who speaks it. Although, from personal experience I think my Chinese got worse after I met my husband!
Learning new languages became a key to succeeding in a connected world. Here are my top favorite language translator apps.
Here are our office staffs favorite Chinese dating apps:
1-TanTan探探 (Tàntàn)
Chinese Dating Sites For Foreigners
Top features: Easy to use, quick matches
If you download TanTan you will find it similar if you've used Tinder. TanTan is very popular with younger generations, especially college students. Just like Tinder, you create a basic profile and then it's up to you to find a match. You are presented with a person's photo and profile and like Tinder, swipe left/right to select/eliminate this person. A conversation can only start once you have both picked each other.
Unlike the other Chinese dating apps, TanTan can be used fully in English! This is extremely useful if your Chinese is not very good. Paid dating sites for professionals.
Since last year TanTan is now also owned by the next dating app we will mention Momo.
2-Momo陌陌 (Mòmò)
Top features: Personalized interest based matches, similar to a social media network
This is the number one app in China in terms of user number. Because of this if you could only pick one app to download this one would be it. To increase your chances of finding a suitable candidate it's better to use an app that has a large user base. This is because it means more matches per location. So this is the one I suggest downloading.
This app has some fun features that make it almost like a social platform rather than a simple dating app. For examplemulti-media instant messages, as well as games, and much more. This app specifically gives you personalized matches based on your location. The more information you add to your profile the better your chances of finding a good match.
3-Qing Chufan请吃饭 (Qǐng chīfàn)
Top features: Simple, unique, cute, possibly the most romantic of the dating apps
If you are studying Chinese, you will know what qing chifan means! It means 'please, let's eat', and that's exactly what this app is used for!
The way this app works is very funny, to me it reminds me of the bachelor. It starts off by a guy proposing a dinner date, lets call him the bachelor. I say man because this actually started off with men proposing dinners but now women do that too. Once a dinner has been proposed, women sign up for it, then the bachelor picks with what woman he would like to have dinner with!
For most people dating apps have become the go-to way to date! I think it will become the new norm to have met your partner online in the future. So have fun using these Chinese dating apps to find your one true love or a new friend, and improve your Chinese skills!
China Dating App Foreigner
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